Health problems can put a strain on a marriage at any age. But as we get older, chronic illnesses can make it even tougher to keep the spark alive.
Scientists at the University of Chicago have uncovered one way couples can offset the stresses of illness and aging: more physical intimacy. Couples who continue to be sexually active over the years report higher levels of satisfaction in their marriages, the sociologists reported last month. And it may only take a little to give the relationship a boost. Going from essentially no sexual activity during a year to sex once each month or so was associated with an increase in marital quality, according to those surveyed.
“To protect marital quality in later life, it may be important for older adults to find ways to stay engaged in sexual activity, even as health problems render familiar forms of sexual interaction difficult or impossible,” sociologists Adena Galinsky and Linda Waite write in The Journals of Gerontology B.
And intercourse wasn’t necessary to maintain intimacy. “As individuals age, the means of sexual expression may change,” the researchers write. “Our measure of sexual behaviors was designed to be inclusive; it asks explicitly about any activities with one’s partner that were sexually arousing, noting that they did not need to result in orgasm.”
To figure out the relationship between sex, marital happiness and health, Galinsky and Waite analyzed data from nearly 500 couples between ages 58 and 85, most of whom had been married for at least 40 years. The team measured marital quality through a series of questions about how close each partner felt to his or her spouse. They asked, for example, “How often do you open up about your feelings?” and “How often do you feel your spouse puts too many demands on you?” They also checked each person’s mental and physical health. And they asked each couple how frequently they engaged in some type of sexual activity ranging from simple caresses to intercourse. A link between marital quality and frequency of intimacy was clear. But how big the effect may be was difficult to summarize.
Other research has found that for some people and couples, sex just isn’t important. After all, love and intimacy can be expressed in many forms. This particular study does not show that sex is necessary for a high-quality marriage. Only that, on average, those who have sex more frequently report higher levels of marital quality.
Largely adapted and re-blogged from NPR Shots “A Strong Sex Life Helps Couples Cope With The Trials Of Aging” by Michaeleen Doucleff.
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